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Three months

by Kizzy1984 @ 2008-09-03 – 22:13:00

The married man - aka the guy with the lisp - was talking to me on facebook last night. He is back at work already after breaking his hand last week because he 'needs the money'. I commented that he would, what with a son to look after.

He kept getting kicked offline, always at the most convenient moments, i.e. right after questions to do with his child or wife. But then, he did text me after that to say he wasn't ignoring me. Oh, and his divorce comes through in 4-6 weeks.

He reckons he wants to see me again. I reckon he's on the rebound. I don't want to be used for rebound sex. Even if I'd be using him for the same thing - minus the rebound bit. It is tempting - if only because it has been three months. THREE MONTHS. But then he might not be using me and I might be taking advantage of a guy in a weak emotional state.

I don't think this can end well. I should stay well clear. I should.
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- Littlelebowski
- 2008-09-04 @ 22:46:17
But you won't.

I'm in basically the same situation. Although the dude I am involved with only has a girlfriend he hates, and isn't married and doesn't have any kids.

But emotionally I guess it is the same situation.

At the moment I face the same choice as you. I'm finding it hard to resist seeing him, but when I imagine him being at my door it fills me with nervousness, dread, and a kind of excitement I am not at this time able to describe.

I think you'll understand what I mean though.

I will read your blog to see how you get on with it (and maybe pinch advice from it).

Pearson.
- - Kizzy1984
  - 2008-09-04 @ 22:59:52
  I'm ok about this guy, I've only seen him a couple of times so I never really got too involved, but I do know what you mean because there is/was another guy.
  
  We have had issues over the past 2 years. He liked the fact I didn't pester him or want to see him all the time. But then things changed, and I did want to see him. Not all the time, just more than I was. But he didn't want that and it all got messed up. He used the whole 'we're just friends' and picked me up and dropped me when it was convenient to him. He could see other girls, but I couldn't so much as speak to another guy. I couldn't resist seeing him, even though I knew my nervous excitement would be short lived and I'd feel worse afterwards.
  
  I think I'm weaning myself off him though lol. Last heard from him a few week ago and ended up telling him that I didn't want to do the friends thing at all. It won't last though. It never does, we drift for a few weeks, sometimes it's months and see other people, but we always end up back in touch again. It sucks lol.
  
  I have avoided blogging about him so far, though I think it is overdue. Sometimes theres just too much to say about someone you don't know where to start, and put off having to commit to text.
  
  In trying to distract myself from him, I end up in situations like with this latest 'soon to be divorced' guy.
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- Eardrum98 ^Pro
- 2008-09-04 @ 23:54:15
But you won't... Hang on didn't someone else just say that?
- - Kizzy1984
  - 2008-09-05 @ 00:25:55
  But the intention to stay away is there. Doesn't that count?
  - - Eardrum98 ^Pro
    - 2008-09-05 @ 00:57:12
    It does. But only for as long as it lasts
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- niamh83
- 2008-09-05 @ 21:53:20
I too have had the same intention soooo many times and each time the excitement overrules.

When I started seeing "my married man" he wasn't married and I told myself over and over again that after the wedding it would have to stop... But somehow we just can't. Again, maybe my situation is slightly different as I don't expect anything more from him, I don't intend for us to leave our partners and run off into the sunset or anything but I just thought that morally I may be able to put a stop to the whole situation.... clearly I was wrong!!!
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